Category: Life

Process of dissolving ill-feelings

To let go is to release the images and emotions, the grudges and fears, the clinging and disappointments of the past that bind our spirit.  –  Jack Kornfield

We all get beaten up by life in one or the other way, this would cause a negative transition inside us. We would start having ill-feelings about past, people, situation and may be everything and to yourself. This ill-feeling may make us feel our life is worth-less and it is not worth going through.

I sense that, root of all misery is not desire, but the ill-feeling. I have experimented various ways to let go ill-feelings accumulated in my chest. I wanted to let go of many ill-feelings on various situations which life put me through. I was unsuccessful for a long time and currently, I have peace and acceptance in my heart. It is beautiful experience which we get once we let go of all our disappointments.

Practice 

  • Accept the ill-feeling, do not try to fight it. Accept the reality. Live with it.
  •  Try to remind yourself of the things which you are grateful for. Be grateful for the small things which are very important. Recently, I suffered from my right hand muscle sprain. Once, I accepted the pain and started doing whatever is possible to overcome the pain, I started being grateful. I started to notice, how important is my right hand. I started seeing how much problem is faced by the people who have lost their right hand. I was enormously grateful for my life and my situations which has kept my body intact till date. For sometime, I even forgot the pain because of the overwhelming happiness and satisfaction which I felt being grateful for my life.
  • Do not try to remove ill-feeling, instead try to have a positive feeling of being grateful, enthusiasm to work on your favorite project, fulfillment of your personal and professional goals and relax into these feelings.
  • Physically loosen up your face, shoulders, chest and the entire body. If you have observed, you would be feeling tightness in parts of your body, if you have negative thoughts running in your head.

These simple powerful practices can change your direction and destiny for better life.

Welcome life in all ways.

Shine like the whole universe is yours. – Rumi

It is very important look closely and observe life and stop making assumptions and meaning out of everything happens to our life. I am not saying that, every event will not have a hidden meaning attached to it but, I am saying that, the meaning you attach to the situation would be wrong most of the times. It is always better let life take it’s course and see what’s in the end, rather than worrying about the meaning of the event.

Stop looking for miracles in every possible situation. One of the biggest practices, I have learnt from life is not finding a miracle in it. We all tend to do it, it is because it gives us comfort, it gives us a sense that our life is distinct and things are happening in a wonderful way. But that would lead you to continuous disappointment.

How to make life simple and stress-free?

  • Work with involvement not attachment, when you involve yourself completely, you will put your full effort in whatever you do and letting go of attachment makes you careless about the outcome. If you do your best, you will get the best possible outcome. You can completely take out the result based thinking out of the equation. Your life becomes much much simpler. In every work/situation do what best you can do, that’s it. Do not worry so much.
  • Live this moment. This moment would never repeat, this is very special and very unique. It is very important you to notice and be in the moment and do what is best in the moment. You can still plan your future in the moment, you can still think about your past in the moment. But just be aware always that, you are in this moment. Not in the future nor in the past. You are just here, now.
  • Be Responsible. Being responsible means you decide your response and you can choose to response for all the events which are directly associated to you and the events which are not. You can choose to respond. Being responsible gives you enormous power which you never knew existed with in you.
  • Life ends. Whatever you do, your life ends one day. So just have it in your mind always that, there is an end to yourself and this gives you an awareness that you must do things which are really important to you and not spend your time on something which is not worthy for you.

I have de-complicated my life with these thoughts constantly running in my head. Keep this note close to you, read it and live it every day. If you can live it every moment of your life then a new perception will open up for you.